120. Why My Pause Was On Purpose
Meet the Host
Five years ago, after achieving my degrees and teaching as a professor, I was feeling proud that I had checked everything off my life list. But, I wasn’t satisfied in my marriage.
Today, I’m a relationship coach on a mission to resurrect the side of you that got lost in your marriage. Millions of people around the world soak up my content for advice on how to have a more satisfying relationship.
Welcome to the Relationship Reset Podcast! In this episode I explain why I took a pause from recording podcasts and renamed the show.
I share some updates with you and remind you that you are allowed to pause in your life, too. Sometimes we need to slow down, pause something, so we can focus on what is most important.
Check out my newly relaunched website, www.karinafdaves.com, done by Brittany of Break of Dawn Studio.
And make sure you’re following me on Instagram @karinafdaves. I’m working with Business Brand and Marketing Coach Kierra of KLC The Studio to create new content.
I’m super excited about these updates and I look forward to continuing to give you advice on how to repair and rebuild your relationship!
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Episode Transcript:
Karina: Amigos como estan? Welcome to the Relationship Reset. And yes, you heard that right. With your host, me, Karina F. Daves, relationship expert, marriage expert, speaker and host of this dope podcast. I have a lot to share, a lot of updates. And this episode, particularly, is titled My Pause Was On Purpose. Plenty of times in our lives we take a pause, and we don't necessarily know the intention or why. Sometimes we feel frozen. Sometimes we feel like there's too much negativity around whatever the case is. I'm sure anybody who is listening to this podcast episode can have a moment, can think back to a moment where they feel like they needed to take a pause. You have not heard a podcast episode from me that was recorded live since January.
And that is on purpose. The last time that I took a break from my podcast was maybe a year and a half ago, two years ago, and I took a six month break. And that I guess is usually the time that I need. I'm not the type of person to want to do everything. And I was actually talking with a close friend recently about some of the symptoms that I was having and she attributed them to burnout.
And I think that as somebody that is high functioning and possibly has high functioning anxiety, I'm not sure at this point. I tend to push the boundaries on a lot of things with time and energy. And in January, I had been given a very heavy schedule in my nine to five. For those of you that are not familiar, I worked in tech and I had a very busy travel schedule. And in January I was traveling and I was putting together a lot of live events and we had a lot of deliverables, a lot of team changes. And during that period I was also commuting to the city four days a week and it was a lot. And while yes, we have support through our lovely nanny, Joanna, who we adore so much, it started to feel really heavy. And so I made a decision to stop recording. And I leaned in on pouring into what I always think is the most important, which are my clients. You see, I have this thought, and this is how I actually want you to think about it as well. I have this thought that my content is recyclable, my podcast episodes are recyclable, my reels are recyclable, my posts are recyclable, things are just recyclable out there, blog posts, my website, all of it. And so when I take a pause, the reason why it's on purpose is because I fundamentally believe that everything else will just continue working. And it did, and it did.
I would say that the last six months have not been easy. Um, emotionally. and I thank God for my relationship and my marriage. And I would say that during the difficult times is also where a lot of relationships are exposed and you are shown, um, who's supposed to be there and who's supposed to not be there. I think God also uses a lot of these moments, uh, where we pause to be with him. And I have cried, I have laughed and I have cried and then I've been mad and then I've laughed and I've cried again. And one of the things that my husband early on this year shared with me was that I needed to pause more. And I didn't really know what that meant. You see it for the majority of my life. I've been the Energizer Bunny whose batteries never run out. And I would say that in 2025, my battery was running out.
And so in the last couple of months, I took a pause to reassess where everything was, not just in my life, but in my business. And for what I want to share with my life is that it has been a lot of decisions that I've had to make that were super intentional. And I feel like I'm not sharing the exact situation. And if you're listening, you're like, girl, what happened?
And I'll always say this, that the things that you see in my marriage are things that we've overcome that are a testimony. And I want to be able to share this testimony with you when the time is right. But I just want you to know that if right now you are struggling with what you're going through in your life and you feel like it's a moment to pause, I think that this confirmation that you needed is right here on this podcast episode.
In your relationship, if it needs a pause, in your work life, if it needs a pause in your daily habits, if it needs a pause, if your routines need a pause, whatever it is, it's important to pause, right? And so that's the, I would say the personal side, right? And through that, I've had to also make decisions in my business, which I will openly share, which is that I tend to focus when times are are rougher than usual, tend to focus primarily on my clients. And while doing that, I realized through the wonderful partners that I had, business coaches, friends, we all realized and it came to light that a lot of the clients, I would say 90 % of the clients that I was working with were dealing with infidelity and were coming to work with me to reset their marriages, to reset their lives, to be able to rebuild, right?
And so this podcast will now be called The Relationship Reset, where I will continue to give you advice on how to repair and rebuild your relationship. And we launched our website today which is why I am coming on here live to share with y'all that, Karina F. Daves, F as in Frank, karinafdaves.com is brand new. So head over to my website as we relaunched. It's gorgeous. It's beautiful. It was done by an amazing designer named Brittany, which I will happily tag on this episode and through that experience, she was so attentive. She has amazing design skills. She listened to the things that I wanted and she was able to build a website from scratch and be able to really honor those that are going through a difficult season, that are going through a difficult season in their relationship, that are, you know, feeling blindsided by their partnerships or feeling like they just woke up to their relationship and they have no understanding of how it got there, right? And so it is a beautiful thing. We are relaunching, karinafdaves.com. We are relaunching the podcast. And as you've seen in the last couple of weeks, we've had some, you know, neck twisting type of content, which I'm so proud for. And KLC, Kiera, who I work with, will also tag here has been such a pleasure to work with as my business brand marketing coach. She's been amazing to work with and I know I'm a tough client. I am. I am a very tough client because I have a care put it. I take a long time to say yes and to a lot of things because I want to make sure that it still is super authentic, especially in the world of AI. I'm very big on making sure that the content that we're putting out there is my voice are, you know, a lot of my thoughts are things that are coming straight from the people that I'm working with. And so I'm very protective of that. and so what I want to share with y'all is that I'm coming out of this pause season where the podcast has been on pause and I'm super excited to share a lot of it with y'all.
And I think that hopping onto a journey of specifically repair and rebuild is exactly what this community needs. I know that a lot of people nowadays are getting into relationships in which in order to check off a box, right? To say that they're in a relationship and once they're in it, it's like, know, holy crap, what do we do? And so I wanted to dedicate this very short episode. As you know, I'm short and I get to the point, okay?
I wanted to dedicate this episode to say hello. Even though you've seen me in stories, even though you've seen me on my Instagram posts, you haven't heard an episode from me yet. And I am just super excited to relaunch kareenafdaves.com. I'm super excited to relaunch the relationship reset, the new angle of this podcast. And I'm super excited to serve y'all. Let me see, there were a couple of comments made in the chat.
You must be trying to get out that you had an affair. Oh my God, Ferrin Piper. No, I did not have an affair. Wish you took insurance. Oh, Gil, I know, me too. But you know what? Here's what I'll say about that. Only because I've been going to physical therapy for about two years and they don't take my insurance and it is pretty pricey. It's I think 295 or 265 per session. And I would say that it was definitely a mind shift of the fact that they didn't take insurance, but it was something that I needed help with and that I wanted to cure. And so I think, you know, in those instances, we really have to figure out how to make our situation work. Bruce Kee needed to hear this. Amen. you're talking in riddles, Batman. I can't really understand everyone in a circle. same guy who thought I was cheating. Okay. Well, thank you guys so much, for listening to this very short and insightful podcast episode. I wanted to share with y'all how I was doing live and also the importance of taking a pause. So if you're listening to this episode, you know that, and if you've listened to my podcast before, you know that I always end in prayer. So here it goes.
Father God, I thank you so much for this day. I ask that you just forgive us for the things that we have done. You obviously know I didn't cheat, Lord, okay? That's not what this is about, but for everybody that's listening today, Lord, I ask that we come to you with such a heart posture of gratefulness and such a heart posture of thanksgiving. Lord, many times this world convinces us that we just must keep going and going and going and going, and we must never stop because there's so much to do, and even when we feel like so much is done, there's still so much more to do.
And this weekend when we had church with our children, there was a wonderful part of scripture that talked about how we are not of this world, we're just in it. And it reminded us that this world is chaotic and the actual world's job is to attempt to mold us into the world and keep us away from you, God. And so in this moment, Lord, I ask that anybody that is listening to the sound of my voice understand that you are not of this world, you're just in it. And if you're tired right now, if right now you feel like you just can't pour in anymore, you feel like it's gotten too difficult, you feel like it's gotten too confusing, let this be a reminder that you are allowed to pause. You are allowed to take a break. You are allowed to grab your burdens and lay them on the cross. You are allowed to be worthy. You are allowed. You have the permission through not just your relationship with God, but the fact that you are the child of the Most High. You have the privilege to pause. You have the privilege to recover. You have the privilege to say, can't hold it all with my two hands. You have the privilege to say, I cannot take that assignment right now. You have the privilege to say, I would like to pause for a second. You have the privilege to say, just give me a minute. And so Lord, I just want to remind anybody that's listening right now, would you remind them that they have the privilege to pause? And while this podcast episode was just intended to be an update, I feel it really heavy on my heart to pray for those that feel like so much is on them, that so much weight is on them and that...they just feel frozen in place. They just feel like there's no other solution for their problem. But Lord, you are our savior, right? You send angels of support, our communities to save us. And Lord, in this moment, I just ask that if anybody is listening right now that really, really, really needs that hand for you to touch them and remind them that you're sending somebody, you're sending somebody soon. You're sending something soon for them to hold on to, something soon that they just may be reminded that faith goes a long way. In Jesus' name we pray, amen.
I hope that helps somebody if you're listening and I love you. And my promise is that I'm here for you, I'm here to serve you and I want you to know that you're allowed to pause. You're allowed to stop. You're allowed to say no to that event. You're allowed. Okay. You have the privilege to pause. So allow my testimony of pausing this podcast for six months to be a reminder to you that you are allowed to take a beat. Okay. I love you so much.
Listen, if there is anything in your relationship that you are struggling with right now, whether it's confusion, infidelity, wanting to rebuild your roommates, I want to work with you. Go to link in my bio and pick a call so we can talk about everything that's happened so far, what you tried and how I can help. Okay, I love you. I love you so much. So leave me a review if you enjoyed it. Share with all of your amigos. My name is Karina F. Daves. And if you didn't know that F stands for Fiorella, which is Italian for a little flower.
My name is Karina F. Daves. I am a marriage expert, a speaker, and the host of this dope podcast, The Relationship Reset. All right. I love you so much. Bye.
